Sometimes, while playing, a toddler spontaneously bites their mom or a friend at daycare – at times unintentionally. A school-aged child, however, might do it intentionally. But at any age, such behavior has its reasons.
Essentially, biting is an act of aggression.
Mom and Dad are the main authority figures for a toddler. They observe them daily: how they behave, what and how they say things, how they react to other people – and they imitate them. If a child regularly witnesses aggression, this way of behaving starts to seem normal to them. And it's quite likely they will carry this manner of communication into daycare.
Intolerance of a child's actions, indifference, emotional rejection – all of this can cause abrupt changes in behavior. Perhaps, by directing aggression towards parents, the child simply wants to be heard and noticed, demanding attention.
Increased anxiety, nervousness, and aggression are more often observed where there is a lack of support, understanding, connection with loved ones, and, above all, parental love. And the family behavior model is easily transferred to relationships with peers – both at daycare and at school.
Before trying to change anything in a child, it's worth honestly asking yourself:
- What is my own attitude towards what is happening?
- How do I raise my child?
Childhood aggression always has a cause, and it's important to understand it. It can be difficult to figure out on your own – and sometimes it's worth seeking help from a psychologist.
It also happens that outwardly the family is quite prosperous and even loving, but their parenting methods are specific. For example:
- the child is constantly forbidden from doing everything;
- the child is often punished for minor misdeeds and pranks that they sometimes don't even realize yet.
A toddler perceives such an attitude as just as difficult as a child from a clearly dysfunctional family. And sometimes even more so – because they face a contradiction: verbally, they are supposedly loved, but in reality, the opposite is shown. In such an environment, a child is no less likely to start biting.
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